Separation rarely happens in a straight line, and it is normal to feel unsure about where you are up to. Where am I in my separation? is a free two-minute check from Village Family Lawyers that maps your progress through the stages of separation in Australia. Answer up to ten simple questions about your relationship, children and finances. You will see your current stage, which key steps are already sorted, and which still need attention, including parenting arrangements, financial disclosure, property division, making agreements legally binding, and divorce. It is general information, not legal advice, designed to help you take the next step with clarity.
Answer a few quick questions. You'll see what's already sorted, what's still open, and what usually comes next.
This tool gives general information only and isn't legal advice. Every situation is different, so please speak with a lawyer about yours. If you or your children are unsafe, call 000. For confidential support, call 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732).
Most people move through five stages of separation: considering separation, recently separated, working things out, finalising and formalising, and fully resolved. Few people move through them in a neat order. It is common to have parenting arrangements settled while property is still being worked through. At Village Family Lawyers, we help clients take each stage one step at a time, in plain English.
In plain terms, the early priorities are usually arrangements for any children, a clear picture of your finances, and understanding your options before signing anything. Many people find it helpful to note their separation date and gather financial records such as bank statements and super balances. Every situation is different, so a confidential conversation with a family lawyer can help you understand which step matters most for you.
Most separations are resolved without going to court. Village Family Lawyers takes a mediation-first approach, and 90% of our mediation-supported matters are resolved without court. Mediation, also called family dispute resolution, gives you a calmer, more private way to reach agreement. Before applying to court for parenting orders, most families are required to try family dispute resolution first, although exceptions apply in some situations.
An informal agreement, even one written down, can be challenged later. To formalise the final stage of separation, couples can apply to the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia for consent orders, or enter into a binding financial agreement for property, which requires each person to receive independent legal advice. A parenting plan can record what you have agreed for your children, but it is not legally enforceable on its own.
Yes. Married couples generally have 12 months from the date their divorce order takes effect to apply for property orders. De facto couples generally have two years from separation. These time limits are one reason many people choose to understand where they stand in the stages of separation early, so they can plan their next steps calmly rather than under pressure.
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